The Tihar Times

Special Correspondent                                                                                        Thursday, 05-05-2011

(The content in italics is author’s work, while the rest are parts of different news articles)

Tihar jail complex, a correctional facility at the Tihar village in Delhi, is South Asia's largest prison, with more than 12,000 inmates. An unprecedented number of well-known persons are currently lodged in Tihar, pending trial and forced into a uniformly spartan lifestyle the jail offers its wards.

The list includes former telecom minister A Raja, his right-hand man R K Chandolia, Commonwealth Games chief organizer Suresh Kalmadi, his close associates Lalit Bhanot and V. K.Verma, mega-rich entrepreneurs such as DB Realty's Shahid Balwa and Vinod Goenka, Unitech's Sanjay Chandra, and Reliance Telecom's Gautam Doshi, Surendar Pippara, Hari Nair and several other prominent people.

Lalit Bhanot and V K Verma, both accused in the CWG scams, are seen chatting with R. K. Chandolia quite often but after five more accused in the 2G scam arrived in the jail later, it has become one big group and they all are seen talking to each other in the premises of Ward Number 4 of Jail Number 3 (as Jail Number 2 which has sections from A to G is full with the 2G loot money), the sources added. "Apart from talking to each other, we have not seen them talking to any other prisoner. The new under trials have not made any demands as of now, except for cash counting machines and duplicate note detector “said a jail source.” They all are following the jail schedule. They wake up at 6am, have their breakfast, read newspapers and then chat with each other while counting as much cash as they can per day without talking about the ratio of their shares(they shall settle that outside the courts, to avoid dumping too many cases on the already super fast Indian courts).

Sources say that Mr. Raja, has been the least demanding of prisoners as he’s been busy calculating and figuring out how much money has been stashed with whom  and where. “Inside the jail, no one is a VIP. High-profile prisoners are not given any extra facilities unless ordered by the court (which of course fears Ram Jethmalani, especially after what he did to Karan Thappar),”

There were no juices and nutritional breakfast for five corporate executives and they are having paranthas(with extra cheese of course) in the jail's canteen for breakfast and mess food during lunch and dinner, which comprises daal(makhani with special lasan da tadka), roti(either tandoori or rumali depending on mood), sabzi(navratan kurma and varieties of panner with a portion of malai kofta generally)  and rice(Hyderabadi biryani specially parceled from Hyderabad arrives every day in Raja’s new charter). They have each been lodged in separate 10x15 feet self-contained cells (with toilet and bathroom, of course centrally air conditioned with a high definition LED TV with a Tata Sky connection, ‘isko laga dala toh life jinga lala’) in Jail Number 3. The security of their cells is also higher than for the other prisoners as they are expected to have carried huge sums of cash with them, which they probably did not find time to count earlier.

Now let’s take a look at each of the high profile inmate’s life at Tihar.

Suresh Kalmadi – Mr.Kalmadi being the latest entrant to Tihar has been found observing the Tihar jail very carefully since he has walked in and sources have seen him talking to the long time residents of Tihar. Upon questioning people whom Kalmadi had a tete a tete with, sources found that he was planning on converting Tihar to another games village, so that the Tihar Jail could host the first ever ‘Tihar Sharewealth Games’ (TSG), All the inmates are assured a chance to participate in the games as all participants are expected to get a cash prize of 1 Crore on registration for the event. Upon being asked about the funding for the same, Kalmadi seemed to be quite in control of things indicating a sponsorship deal with the corporate big wigs including DB Realty's Shahid Balwa and Vinod Goenka, Unitech's Sanjay Chandra, and Reliance Telecom's Gautam Doshi being the event sponsors while A.Raja assured to be the Title Sponsor for the mega event.

Lalit Bhanot – On the other hand Mr.Lalit Bhanot the former Secretary General of CWG Delhi 2010 was allotted a dirt-caked cell, a mattress stained with dog paw prints and a sink smeared with the spittle of chewing tobacco. Lalit still seemed to be quite happy with what he got as he thought it was still really a high standard thing in India and he felt privileged to get such nice accommodation especially after his comment on Indian hygiene in September 2010.

A.Raja - A.Raja was seen complaining to the Tihar inmates (some of whom were Dalits) that he was targeted because he was a Dalit and ensured this way that he had some support for him inside this new 2G haven he secured for himself after years of planning and hard work. Some of the inmates seemed to be really happy as they were able to meet one of India’s richest men (quickest) which otherwise would never have been possible. When a close inmate of Raja, pointed to him that, his aide Sadiq Batcha in his note wrote that he blamed nobody for his death, but that he was embarrassed by "raids and media limelight over the 2G spectrum scam." He also wrote that Mr Raja and his wife "are good people." To which Raja seemed to have whispered, “How could I have asked him to write poorly about me, Tell?”

R.K. Chandolia - Former telecom minister A Raja's private secretary RK Chandolia had threatened several Tihar officials to ensure grant of the royal suite of Tihar to Shahid Balwa of   Swan Telecom as he thought it fit to ensure special allocation for his old client as he hadn’t done enough for him for the amount he received from him, so he is still trying to make good for the payment received and convince Balwa that he isn’t a Namak Halal!

As we go for print, a source close to Raja told us that, while the others were a little sad and bored all this while with not much to do at Tihar, A.Raja seemed to be quite excited since a couple of days. Sources close to him confirmed to us that it had to do with Kanimozhi having her trial in the SC. Raja hoped to unite with her again at Tihar, hoping Tihar authorities will provide a separate 2G cell for the couple who have been talked about by the whole nation for quite long.

The source also added that, the first movie Kani and Raja watched together was 7G Rainbow Colony (Hit Tamil Film) and as a result of which they chose the 2G spectrum allocation as an opportunity to  use that as a sign of their togetherness, leading to they taking the 7G worth of share from the allocation and leaving the exchequer poorer. What an idea 2G!!!

© The Tihar Times

Today’s Favorite Line – Poor and Content is Rich and Rich Enough.

Today’s Favorite Song – Tu Salaamat Rahe (Adnan Sami)

Ancestral Bubble - Is Now World's Trouble.

The most awaited event of the year 2011 is obviously neither the next release of Rajnikant nor the IPL (not even the cricket world cup for that matter). The year 2011 will be remembered in the history of humanity for a similar but larger feat than the one in the year 1999. In 1999 the world supposedly witnessed the birth of the 6 billionth living human and in late 2011 we are going to witness the birth of the 7 billionth living human (in fact certain agencies are coming up with precise date and time and one lucky person would be given the honor of being the 7 billionth!!). The planet earth is having to bear the load of 7 billion creatures with 5 senses or more and all the nuisance they come up with day in and day out. We have environmental issues, climate change, inflation, poverty, unemployment, greed, ego, racism and a hundred other issues to be taken care of, and as the worlds population increases these problems are only going to increase manifold.

Could we have avoided this situation through some precautionary measures some time in the history of humanity? I guess the answer is yes, if our ancestors would have been rational and practical mainly. If we have such a huge population base today it’s our ancestors who are to be blamed. You must be wondering why am I so anti ancestral?

 Just try and understand the following argument to realize what led to what and why we are in such an awful situation today. Most of our forefathers and the generations that followed have had 5+ children (There are a lot of them I know of who can form a cricket team) and those children have had their own families and then their children their own families and so on. The family tree kept growing, so did the population, without realizing the fact that their actions will lead to serious issues for the generations to come and it would in fact become a threat to their own family members of the future generation.

Now lets just say that our fore fathers were rational and conservative and had control over their actions by limiting the number of children to 2 or 3, at least 40%(a random guesstimate) of the population that the world has been a host to whether living or dead today might have never been there leading to layers of generations later on. And the number 7 billion that we are talking about today would have been a distant dream. All the troubles that we have to go through today would either have been non existent or we would not have been a part of the human species to witness the same. 

Now that we are talking about restraint and family planning, if some of these things would have been put into the heads of our ancestors, may be the world would have been a far better place to live in today.

The question to which I don't seem to discover an answer while thinking about the whole population explosion thing is the rational or logic behind our ancestors wanting to have too many children, what joy did they get? Most of them were neither well off, nor had sufficient resources to take care of their children and their well being. Then why did they have to burden themselves with more people to take care of leading to more expenses and worries there of? As a result of actions of these ancestors that we are talking about a lot of their children remained uneducated, were subjected to child labor, made multiple sacrifices every now and then, always lived for a share in the pie and in some cases lacked proper care and upbringing leading to not so happy lives (this is strictly my assumption, though if this question is raised to any of the elder generations the answer would be totally opposite). 

Did our forefathers not see the population explosion coming up? Were they so well to do that they assumed their earnings would serve the generations to come? I think the answer to the second question is an affirmative No, while to the first one it might be a no or a may be as our forefathers themselves faced lack of resources, so from where did they get a ray of hope that the situation might improve? I guess if they had a chance to go back in time and rewrite their life's story, it would be a completely different tale and state of affairs all together. Anyways now that our futures are in jeopardize, at least may their souls rest in peace. And the ones who are still breathing – "You Two, Ours One"  is the way forward (as the Chennai auto’s convey) i guess.

P.S. – The trigger for this write up was this article on TOI a few days back. The family trees above were made by the author for the purpose of illustration. Only four generations have been shown in the illustration as the author feels a maximum of four generations may only see the light of the day in a century and its sufficient to consider a century in the context being discussed.

Today's Favorite Line - "Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's Favorite Song - What about now (West Life)

From the womb of recession - Class of 2009

The one thing that is really crucial while selecting a b-school for any aspiring management student is its placement record. But for the children of recession, it hardly mattered. They all joined a premier institute at a time (2007) when the economy of the world was doing really well and they hoped it would be in an even better position when they graduate or at least remain the same worst come worst, but no way could it get go down. ‘How could that happen to me’ would have been the thought on any average wannabe MBA’s mind while he/she had joined the course.

And then the so called recession did not hit the bschool located at Nungambakkam alone, nor did it hit the city of Chennai alone, how about the state of Tamilnadu, no? India? We are not yet done my friend! It hit placements of graduates all over the world and no one was spared. Though some of them must have got jobs, decent profiles, so-so pay packages but then thousands of them hardly had a job for a long time while the next batch was slowly getting placed. And if at all they got placed it was may be at a lower band than they usually would have got, and at a pay scale that in no way was comparable to the preceding batches, but no one could help it, we were not the destiny’s children, we were specially chosen to be the recession’s children.

We were the batch that was tested the most for its patience, skill sets, competitive spirit and above all our faith. Luckily, at least at my bschool everyone was placed, if not on day zero, at least in the months after it. But there were thousands of graduates across the globe, who either dint get a job, lot of whom had quit a job to graduate, others gave promotion a slip and so on. But what made this batch born from the womb of recession special was the fact that, they joined a bschool when the markets were at its best and they graduated right when the markets tanked to an all time low, unemployment rates soared like the sun would in the noon and the number of opportunities available were as high as the number of stars you could count on a sunny day.

One instance that stands out on my mind with regard to the placements during the recessionary period was the episode of a top investment bank that was supposed to visit our campus for recruitment on September 18^th and all my batch mates were excited and were preparing really hard to be able to ace the selection process of one of the best investment banks of the world. They prepared so much so that, it felt as if it was the only thing they ever wanted in life. I would have hardly seen them prepare for any other thing the year or so before that. But how could they have known, the company they were aspiring to work for went bust just a day before it was supposed to visit our campus. Yea, you read it right, September 17^th was the day when the Business Line newspaper that we had started reading for quite sometime then to keep ourselves abreast of the business world read, “Lehman Bros files for bankruptcy” as its top headline on its front page. Lots of dreams were shattered, lots of them more or less lost hope, but then some of us who were still out of the trap of the fantasy world of big brand ‘dream company’ realized that what had happened to us, was may be in our best interest. If Lehman would have filed its chapter 11 on a day after it recruited some of us, it would have been a much much bigger shock, cos then it would have been a case of having a job in a company that had ceased to exist. It was far better that we ‘did not have a job’ rather than ‘have a job but not have it’. In fact this was the case with a dozen or more students from a couple of other premier institutes of the country who were recruited by Lehman before it was supposed to come to our campus, I know how difficult it would have been for those children of bankruptcy.

A lot has been discussed, argued and felt about this class of 2009, but what is it that has transpired with respect to these children of recession should be of further interest to the world, as these are the people who had seen both boom and bust at a very young age, in fact even before the start of their career. And I thought this was the best thing to have happened to us, we learnt some of the lessons we would have learnt much later in life, much earlier than a lot of others do. Though its been a painful period of 20 months since we have started working, but we’ve grown up with a lot of learning’s that would take us a long way in the future when may be such a catastrophe hits the world again, we would be prepared far better than the rest of the crowd.

Though at a psychological level we might have had a few advantages and disadvantages over the rest of the management crowd, we have definitely lost out on the monetary quantum and the sense of security standpoint. Lot of us had got job’s on contractual basis and our fates will be decided really soon, we would stand again on the same point as we did 2 years ago, if these companies don’t make us permanent employees. It would again be a period of anxiety & patience, again trying to get a good job and getting settled down with what we would like to do, but boy! its not going to be easy. Though the markets now are doing far better, destiny isn’t always with the lot that in some sense has been rejected (if I am allowed to use that word) by some other corporate.

When we graduated I used to think that the jobs we got are the jobs that were really crucial, as companies wont really recruit in such times unless they really want people to fill certain vacancies, but for certain companies it was just an easy way out to hire cheap than in years of boom may be, though not true in all the cases. The pie chart below would give you an idea about how the class of 2009 has been doing over the course of 20 months since they started working.

It’s clear that close to 70% of them are still with the same company  they started out with, but the fact is, at least a quarter of them are seriously looking out for other opportunities mostly because they aren’t really fond of what they are doing, as a process of which some of them have already changed one job (20%). The remaining 13% who are not working are the ones who have either quit their jobs as they want to pursue something else, including starting some business of their own or a completely different career or may be got married and settled ( you know what that means). Now the question is, is the story similar with other batches who either passed out before or after, I would say more or less YES, but still there are things that this particular batch is going through which others might not have gone through, things that cant really be expressed, but can only be felt.

One thing I firmly believe in and have understood through this whole experience is, destiny’s child or recessions child, as long as things are good make hay, but remember things won’t remain good or bad for ever. The markets have gotten back on track and companies are recruiting astounding number of people this year, breaking all kinds of previous records. Just be patient and give your best, recession or no recession, there is a billion plus population in the country that has to be fed, transported, taken care of and a lot of other services to be provided to. Someone has to do each of these things, so just stay active and you’ll definitely find something that you really deserve. Last thought (or piece of advice you might call it) for all management’s children would be – Stop measuring your success in life based on your CTC, it hardly matters as long as you find something that you would love to do for a large fraction of your life and a management degree is not just a gateway to a seven digit pay check always, it is a great deal more than that, if all of us realize that, it wont matter even if you were from the womb of recession. Let’s stop looking at management education as a platform ticket for the employment station, it’s rather a first class ticket to some of the best learning’s and experiences in life.

P.S. – This post was inspired by views posted in an article on Times of India recently.

Today’s Favorite Line - A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing. - Oscar Wilde

Today’s Favorite Song – Pray for me brother (A.R. Rehman)

The Wall – The Best A Team Can Get

Every home has four walls to protect the people living inside, to give them the feeling of being warm and secure from external environment no matter its summer or winter, calm or chaotic outside. We make sure that our wall is as strong and reliable as possible. But the Indian Cricket Team has been so fortunate, that though it has had a lot of other luxuries, though it has had only one WALL to protect itself, but then they never felt the requirement of anything more as THE WALL that they had made sure, performed the role of more than being a solid structure, by saving the team against all countries and conditions.

Lately there have been long and short battles going on between fans of two camps, ‘The Record Holder Camp’ and ‘The Wall Camp’ and the premise of the battle has more or less been pointless, how can you compare two people who have played two completely different roles in a teams success towards becoming a top team from almost no where. While one’s career has been totally to the team, by the team and for the team and the others has been more of to the record book, by the record book and for the record book, it hardly makes any sense to compare the two. My words might sound supportive towards the wall, but that’s also cos I have been a huge fan of him ever since my childhood, while all the other kids used to admire the short guy with tall records, I felt this lean guy with strength to rescue the team from every calamity was more commendable, not that the short guy never saved the team, but if you look at the lean guy’s record in lieu of corresponding situation of the team on a given match day, you shall realize who gave it all for the country each time.

This debate has primarily popped up just because the Indian media, blatantly ignored the fact that THE WALL of the team has reached a milestone that only two other batsmen in the world have achieved and more importantly it also in the joy of celebrating the records of the little master, forgot the more important aspect of the game, winning/ saving the game, which the little master failed miserably at, though he had some control over the situation. The media frenzy has been totally towards a record that we’ve been waiting for quite some time. Taking individuals over team, where did our post match analysis and cribbing go? As per my knowledge and understanding, on most of the occasions when the little master has played a good knock the team has not won! Take each of his knocks and tabulate it with the match result or situation, and you can judge the result for yourself. What’s the use of hitting a ton, when it can’t make my team win? We won’t see Dr. Manmohan Singh as a nice PM, the moment his government fares badly? (Aren’t we doing this already?)

In order to make a few things clear as to why we respect THE WALL so much, I have compiled a set of pointers (including a few individual records) to show how strong the wall has been and how crucial a role he has played as a team player, rather than being a selfish player( no offense meant). Each of these points below conveys how important his contribution was to the success of the team (not the record books). The following points have been compiled using the Wikipedia page of Rahul Dravid.

He is the first and the only batsman to score a century in all ten Test playing nations (The little master can may be emulate this, but not break this one record!)

Dravid has also been involved in more than 80 century partnerships with 18 different partners and has been involved in 19 century partnerships with Sachin Tendulkar - a world record. (Ever heard? partnerships win you matches, centuries don’t!)

Dravid was top run scorer in the 7th World Cup (1999), scoring 461 runs. He is the only Indian to score two back to back 100's in World Cup's. (He was a contender for Man of the Series award, missed it to Lance Klusner, an all-rounder)

Dravid was involved in two of the largest partnerships in ODIs: a 318-run partnership with Sourav Ganguly, the first pair to combine for a 300-run partnership, and then a 331-run partnership with Sachin Tendulkar, which is the present world record. (Again stood besides these 2 greats of Indian cricket and let them take the lime light in both the occasions, though he was as much a part of the success)

Also, Dravid is the current world record holder for the highest percentage (%) contribution of runs scored in matches won under a single captain, where the captain has won more than 20 Tests. In the 21 Test matches India won under Sourav Ganguly's leadership, Dravid played his part in every single one of those wins, scoring at a record average of 102.84 and piling up an astonishing 2571 runs, with nine hundreds - three of them double-centuries - and ten fifties in 32 innings. He contributed nearly 23% of the total runs scored by India in those 21 matches, which is almost one run out of every four runs the team scored. (I am sure, the little master, could hardly get closer to this, contributing towards teams victory, every time! And we think Sourav Ganguly was a great captain, think of him without THE WALL’s contribution.)

Though primarily a defensive batsman, Dravid has scored 50 not out in 22 balls (Strike Rate-227.27) vs NewZealand in Hydrabad on 15 Nov 2003, second fastest 50 among Indians. Only Ajit Agarkar 67 of 21 balls is faster than Dravid. (Now I heard someone telling me, he is a defensive player. Oh Really?)

After a barren run in Test matches in 2008, Dravid came under increasing media pressure to retire or be dropped. In the Second Test against England in Mohali, he scored 136, putting on a triple-century stand with Gautam Gambhir. (Every player goes through bad patches in his career, but RD responds not by his individual score, but by his contribution to the teams cause. So stop playing god father, let him decide when he wants to retire)

He has been involved in the most century partnerships in Test history – 85, as on 23 Nov 2009. (Now, compare that with the little master’s partnerships, scoring 50 centuries won’t get the team the top slot, staying on in different conditions and making the other player comfortable to play with does!)

Involved in highest partnership made away from home for any wicket for India with vice captain Virender Sehwag of 410 runs vs Pakistan at Lahore in 2006, also, the highest partnership between a captain and the vice captain (Now, that’s a record! Breaking the opposition to pieces)

He is currently 2nd among batsmen who have scored most away runs in Tests (6430 as of April 2009). Only Sachin Tendulkar (7165) has scored more away Test runs. (Obviously the little master is a little ahead, but the difference in the number of innings and years played by both of them is quite significant a reason for the difference.)

He is the fastest batsman in the history of Test cricket to make 9,000 runs. The former Indian captain brought up the landmark in his 176^th innings playing against West Indies in 2006 and broke the earlier record of Brian Lara. (Did someone talk about his consistency?)

Partnering with Tendulkar, has scored more runs than any other pair, excluding opening pairs. They are the 3^rd best in terms of total number of partnership runs scored by a pair in test cricket. (And in majority of these partnerships, his contribution wasn’t acknowledged as much as the media always wanted to talk about the Record Master)

Dravid has faced highest number of deliveries in test cricket, more than Allan Border’s previous record of 27002 deliveries. (Staying there on the crease for the team, saving one side of the wicket when all others fail! If scoring runs is important, in test cricket staying on the crease is even more crucial.)

2nd highest number of fifties in test cricket after Australia's Allan Border (63) and jointly shared with compatriot Sachin Tendulkar (59). (Now, he equals the little master on this record, but again, how many innings of each of them rescued or put the team in a better position? Check!)

Rahul Dravid is the third batsman in the world after compatriot Sachin Tendulkar and Australia's Ricky Ponting to reach the 12000-run milestone in test cricket. (Last but not the least. Personal milestones matter but they don’t make a winner! So we mention it last, no matter whether anyone acknowledges it or not!!)

To conclude, I’d just like to say that, Rahul Wall Dravid is one amongst the BEST TEST PLAYER the World has ever seen. While RD has contributed 20 times towards the teams victory and SRT has contributed 23 times (Courtesy – Mid day Article), look at the ratio of innings played or no. of fifties plus hundreds scored to no. of times it lead to the teams victory and you’ll realize why I put RD above SRT in context of being a better team player, all over the write up. The only reason RD is being compared to SRT is, he is no lesser than SRT if not greater but like I started off, both are a class in themselves, nevertheless team comes over self, always!

P.S – This write up wasn’t intended to compare the two greats, but in the process of compiling facts and thoughts, my mind couldn’t resist answering all those record favoring and ignorant individuals ignoring the security this soldier has given to Indian Cricket for over a decade and a half, always being overshadowed by others and still never expecting acknowledgement. I Salute. I hope this write up would shut a lot of mouths suggesting retirement of RD for ever, its’ his fitness, let him take a call. You Take a Bow!!

Today’s Favorite Line – I'm not offended by what you say. I'm just glad that you're stringing words into sentences now.

Today’s Favorite Song – He could be the one ( Hannah Montana)

Phas Gaya Re Marwadi

It is always perceived to be better to be born in a rich business family, but as a really old saying goes ‘the grass always looks greener on the other side’. I think (out of experience mostly) that it’s a bane in more senses than one to be born in a rich business family (this is not exactly the ‘by experience’ that I am talking about) as it restricts you from being the kind of person you like to be. Though one might argue saying, you have the liberty and the resources that one requires to fulfill his/her aspirations, the reality is generally far from our imagination. How many Marwari’s that you know have gone out of their family’s already existing so called dynastical business empire? And if you are thinking that they dint go beyond cos they dint want to, then may be you are wrong, most of them stick back cos they have to, and they aren’t in a position to question or fight back to fulfill their dreams. Their aspirations get killed just cos they have to keep the family name flying high in the field their fore fathers chose to enter, no matter whether it’s going to work in the future or not.

The family becomes so narrow minded that everything except for what they are involved in seems risky, cos it involves things that they don’t understand, people of the kind whom they have never confronted before and courage that they never had (if they had it, they would have tried their own thing, rather than following their fore fathers just for the sake of it, by killing their own talent), killing genuine talent in other fields generation after generation. It’s known across the country that marwadi’s are known to be businessmen and are known to do well in business, but have we ever given a thought to the fact that how many of them who turned out as these so called good businessmen wanted to be the same? Now just cos they are doing well, we appreciate them and that’s obviously cos of their dedication and hard work, but haven’t they killed their hidden talent in other fields of interest (just in case, this might even mean any other business than the one in which the family is already involved).

At least someone born in a family where the main source of income is from a salary and not from some business, the younger generation always knows that it’s totally in their hands to build a career, to earn a living, to gain some name and respect. An individual can start working on these things with a sense of purpose and direction in mind, though he/ she might have to face a lot of obstacles and lack of resources, but the feeling of fulfillment is always there. But if you take a Marwadi youngster today, more often than not, all the liberties I mentioned above are absent, he/she hardly has a sense of purpose at any point in life, its always filled with if’s and buts (if’s of ‘what if my family wont allow me’, buts of ‘but I really want to do this’) which never get addressed rationally (you can take my word on this one, I can write a book on this subject in fact), there’s never the feeling of fulfillment as the family never lets you do anything on your own, they always want to act like a god father, even if you don’t want one (for hell’s sake, let me get things done for myself, MY WAY!), think of making a name for your self or some respect if at all that’s possible, it always gets over shadowed by the power of money and contacts your family wants to flaunt every now and then, as if you couldn’t do anything without them (now come on, your contacts are not end of the world! I have mine!!).

How does a marwadi youngster make a mark in such an orthodox environment, especially cos he/she has to deal with people who are mostly less educated, past driven, self obsessive, protectionist, conservative and most importantly still doing good in life in their own ways? You can hardly beat them on anything and argue? You better not try if you can’t take irrationality for an answer!

P.S – There are a zillion reasons why it’s a boon to be born in a Marwari business family, I am not ignorant of those luxuries (luxuries always don’t relate to money or status, & I mean it), in fact a lot of these things lead to a better life for a person than in any other community or type of people (FYI, I am not racist, neither do I believe in caste or creed, just making a point). Just wanted to highlight this one bane, that I observe affecting a lot of youngsters including me at this point in time. If you’re wondering why Marwari specific arguments in this one, cos they are the ones whom I represent but hardly seem to understand.

Today’s Favorite Line – Opportunity paged me, tweeted me, linked me, e-mailed me, poked me, faxed me and spammed me... but I was expecting it to knock.

Today’s Favorite Song – So Sick (Ne-Yo)

Kalmadi – The Unsung Hero

Oops!! Is the title right? May be, We’ll find out soon. India so far has conducted a Cricket world cup and a few other sporting events of some scale now and then, nothing great or bigger apart from that. We aren’t surprised on India’s ability to conduct a cricket world cup, but could you have ever imagined or can you still imagine that India could host a mega event as huge as the ‘CWG’? Do we have the expertise, the experience, the support of all the stakeholders? (Now you would say yes, but what would have been your answer before the games started?) No matter what your answer to this question is, we required courage, leadership and faith to be able to even dream of something of this scale and size. And since we showed all of that in some sense or the other, in some people or the other, we pulled it off, don’t you think so?

Every cat, dog and mouse (tom, dick and harry is old) have been abusing and accusing the chair of the OC, the guy who got the CWG to India (agreed, it’s not his individual effort but his role was quite substantial as I understand), who fought the bureaucracy, the system and most importantly the mindset, by making us believe that we can do a mega event like CWG and that will take the sporting arena in the country to a new level by providing our sportspersons excellent infrastructure and world class atmosphere within their home to be able to compete with top sportspersons from across the world at par. If it wasn’t for his courage to take the responsibility and the risk of doing the unthinkable in India that too as a public project (unlike cricket world cup, which is a private entity in more senses than one) to me is commendable!

Talking about the accusations of corruption and delay, give me one concrete proof or example of the same, all the accusations that our beloved media has so far made are nothing but assumptions and hidden camera operations to try and unearth something to make a story! Do we have a single charge of corruption against him that is direct and accurate? Don’t give me stuff like ‘contracts were given to relatives’, ‘the people working in the team are all his aides’ and so on, how does it matter as far as the work is done? Give me one politician in the country who has people in his team that he hasn’t known for decades, why talk so broadly, take the example of how our country is being run, since independence our country has more or less been run by a single family generation after generation, isn’t that true? Then why point this as an issue against this chap? (Now don’t tell me that, the people of India wanted this family to. Crap!) I agree mostly on the accusations on him in terms of the delay as that led to a lot of last minute issues and fears, but is it totally fair to accuse him for this so seriously? Are we not the country where the court of law takes decades together to give a verdict on simple disputes? Are we not the country where Pizza gets delivered before an ambulance? Are we not the country where police always reaches after the criminals have done all they wanted to? Then why suddenly are we trying to act as if we were the second’s hand of a clock? Lets face it, we have never been able to complete projects on time, that’s not an excuse for Kalmadi but does that not remind you of the fact that the whole CWG organizing required  coordination between various bureaucratic ego’s and stakeholders, Do I need say more?

I hate the fact that people keep blaming ‘him’ for India having spent 17000 crores (or whatever the exact figure is) without even spending a single minute thinking about where and how that money was spent. Most of the money was spent on the city of Delhi and not on the sporting related things, and that’s not just for the games, the money spent on infrastructure of Delhi was much required keeping in mind the growing population of the city and the kinds of problems people face in commuting in Delhi. Is CWG responsible for the money spent on such endeavors? It’s the scapegoat cos because of it the projects were taken up much earlier than they ever would have been! Delhi otherwise wouldn’t have had a metro may be for another decade or so. If the money spent on the infrastructure of the games village and other stadiums is a waste of money then we should stop expecting our sports persons to perform and win! If Kalmadi has been a cause of overrun of cost then who does each household hold responsible for the increase in their monthly expenses than budgeted early in the year? Is there no inflation or change in costs/plans when we talk about the CWG related contracts and materials. Can something that was decided years or months ago remain as it was put down on paper? I heard sometime back from someone that a flyover or a road leading to the new airport in Bengaluru was proposed to be made for 67 crores rupees by a panel that included Mr. Narayana Murthy, later that committee was dissolved due to some political intervention and the state PWD went ahead to do it and completed the project for close to 300 crores. So if that is possible with just a road, is it not possible with a games village? Use some mind if not heart!

Everyone is talking about corruption and hanging of Kalmadi, as if he has pocketed the entire 17000 crores, come on, lets stop being silly, may be there are discrepancies here and there, may be he is corrupt, may be he gave all the contracts to his aides, name me one party or politician in the country that hasn’t done any of the above at least a dozen times. I am not trying to support Kalmadi, nor am I trying to say that it’s good that Indian politicians are corrupt or we should leave Kalmadi even if he is guilty cos everyone does this. I am just trying to bring some rationale to the madness that the media has inserted into our head; our accusations seem to be statements made in a hurry. What if the audit committee finds him to be honest and find no wrong doing? I know this is too much optimism but have we not already shown too much distrust on him already! Just take a moment and find answers for these people before you defame or ill treat Kalmadi any more. The names that I am listing down are just a small sample of people who have various criminal cases or so against them, but they still continue to enjoy complete freedom and power in various sectors even though their wrong doing might have been established or proved in ways and times more than one – Lalu Prasad Yadav, Shibhu Soren, A Raja, Madhu Koda, Mayawati and many more!! Now compare these people with Kalmadi if he is really guilty and see the difference in what he has created and what these power houses have! I rest his case here. Hang him if he is guilty, beat him to death by the law, but don’t beat him to death just by defaming him before finding out the facts. And for once, just for once, acknowledge the fact that he has played a gigantic role in the hosting and success of the CWG, no matter he might be corrupt or what so ever that might be proved, but until then respect the courage and the commitment! Stop treating him like Kasab at least, phew! May Kalmadi get what he deserves, post the probe that is!

Today’s Favorite Line – There are a lot of lies going around and half of them are true (Winston Churchill)

Today’s Favorite Song – The Gambler (Kenny Rogers)

P.S – I don’t mind if I sound like a desperate attention seeker by taking a view completely opposite to the rest of the world as if I was trying to support the deeds of Kalmadi, just trying to see things from the other side as well. Let’s not forget, we live in India and this was a public project, not a private one!

Robot Who? Rajni?? Huh!!

(Just an attempt to stay in senses while the rest of the world has gone mad behind the hype; thoughts on why I haven’t really bothered to watch the movie in the near future, at least till I see/hear a few dozen people having suffered from over expecting. So if you are an ardent Rajni fan (like I was in the past) you might not like reading this one)

Why so much hype for a film, that has a 60 year old in the lead opposite a female of his daughters age, where the 60 year old is playing a younger individual that too as a Robot?, you wouldn’t imagine such stuff even with Hollywood.

I have been a big Rajni fan all my life, but for the last 5 years or so, I’ve lost the respect and love I had for his acting (except for Chandramukhi, though I don’t think it was cos of him that the movie was a hit!) as its been quite a while that he has acted himself, the roles that he has been donning lately are all over the sky ones where he isn’t much of an importance either in terms of acting or in terms of his genuine style that we always loved about him, as the character he plays are much larger than life, beyond the reach of a sane humans understanding. It’s just his name which is bringing people to the theatres and later getting back disappointed, be it Sivaji or be it Baba, both were flops! And I don’t think bringing up his appearance in Kuselan helps his case any more, the movie was promoted as if it was a Rajni movie but ended up as a guest appearance which wasn’t worth it also! To sum things up, he’s been quiet a disappointment to me in the last few years and I am no more excited about his films specially when they are over hyped with zillions spent on the movie with less of his acting and more of sci fi stuff, where’s ‘The Rajni’ factor? Where’s his style like in Basha? Padayappa? Arunachalam? I Miss them!!

Even if the Robot was decent enough the credit I think would go to Shankar for the overall work in the movie, how much does it depend on Rajni that there’s so much hype around for it being his movie? The Rajni days are gone, let’s accept it! He is no Kamal Hassan kind of persona who picks and chooses his work and executes it in such a way that the movie speaks for itself than he being the promoter of his movie. Do we remember Dasavatharam? Agreed that it was hyped as a Kamal starrer with Kamal playing ten roles and all those talks on world record, but after watching the movie you really feel the kind of work Kamal has done in the movie, each of the character’s he played in the movie spoke for itself, at times one wouldn’t even realize if one of those characters was Kamal at all, if you previously dint know that Kamal was playing ten roles.

And more or less I guess Shankar having seen Kamal play a scientist in Dasavatharam, would have envisioned even Rajni playing one and being a smash hit, but I guess with  Rajni in the lead everything else takes a back seat, no matter Rajni has something special to offer in it or not, what matters to the producer is his pay back, which is a sure thing with Rajni playing the lead, all the money invested would be back in no time, dint we see that with flops like Baba, Kuselan et al. Why does Rajni have to copy Kamal and be a scientist? Are his artificial stunts (& make up, the white hair.. Grrr!) not already enough for the audience to be able to digest? At the end of the day though everyone makes their own money, right from theatre owners, producers, the entire unit involved in the film making, the audience lose! They pay whatever it takes for them to take a first look at the over hyped stuff with an actor who has just passed an age where he could do something commendable (except for Amitabh & Kamal for their respective ages and charm) and keeps selling just cos of his past and his fans don’t want to disappoint him so they watch the same flop movie n number of times to become visible to their favorite star, how Stupid!

Talking about the ratings so far of the movie, TOI has given it a 3.5 (TOI’s ratings are always exaggerated, think of it, it rated Anjaana Anjaani 3, which a lot of other sources have rated 1 on average!, we all know about TOI’s ratings, don’t we?), a couple of other sources that I checked had given it a 3, just a ‘3’ for so much of artificial hype and money? That too I am sure was given cos they don’t have the courage to rate it down keeping in mind the mass madness for Rajni, fans wouldn’t be able to digest a low rating and if that’s not a valid point, then lets just say, the direction and the screen play of the movie would have worked in its favor. The only question I want to ask is, has Rajni been of any significance in the success of the movie per say?! Leave alone the name and his past! Talk about his performance/ presence in this movie alone. Did his acting add any value to the rating or the entertainment part of the movie? Be Honest!! Then why so much HYPE?!!!

Today’s Favorite Line – Here’s one from the Robot himself – “Buddy if I beat you, even Google wont be able to find you” (huh.. I wonder why I called it a favorite line :x)

Today’s Favorite Song – Waiting on the world to change

Mandir ya Masjid? – How about Neither?!

Tomorrow is a big day for a lot of ardent believers and just another intimidating day for the rest of the country, as what ever the verdict of the respectable court, the outcome for the common man will still remain to be a creepy day. I am an ardent non believer who believes in a free nation, that we supposedly live in. My family would tell me not to get out of home as it concerns my security in case of any unforeseen violent outburst as a result of a pro hindu or pro muslim or even a tareek pe tareek kind of verdict. To add to the already sad driving experience on the dug up express ways we have across the city, (makes one wonder why the word ‘express way’ was ever used in context of Indian roads) there’s going to be slow moving traffic, high level checking and so on, to slow the pace of our lives and to make us even more furious.

It all started on a not so fine day in the history of India, when a lot of fervent heartless (I don’t know if I can call them sense less, it might demean the word sense) people (I don’t want to tag them as hindus or what ever, they don’t deserve to be tagged or known as hindu’s as well, cos I believe Hinduism didn’t teach them to do what they did and moreover it might increase the stigma among the hindu’s which they are already feeling for years I guess) demolished a Mosque which was built decades ago by some ruler. No matter it would have been the birth place of lord Ram, does that mean there cannot be a mosque or a church in the same place? Did they know for sure about lord ram’s thoughts and attitude towards Islam or about the existence or inexistence of a mosque in lord ram’s life time at Ayodhya? What these crooks did that day to this mosque was not just demolition of a building, but in fact was a grave act of breaking the law of the land, in terms of going against the constitution of the country which clearly talks about democracy and other such noble things to keep the people of the country as a single unit rather than warriors of various armies.

The mistake has been done, at some point by these so called pro ram’s birth place warriors and ‘may be’ at some point by the other sect if I can call them ‘pro revenge warriors’ wanting to have their mosque back at the disputed site. Where were these pro ram’s birth place warriors when this mosque stood tall for more than 300 years, were they busy researching the dna of lord ram to find out if he was born on that land? Even if a mosque was built on that land by a mughal in ram’s land, who says that it was wrong? Will it be a sin if I go to Vatican and build a temple in the same city? Or is it not possible for us to have a mosque at/ around the famous vaishnao devi mountain? Will having a mosque back at the disputed site relieve the muslims or will having a ram temple at the site peace the hindus? Is there no other piece of land in the country that could serve as a place of worship? Have our religions, no matter which one we believe in taught us that, god lives in our heart?

If one of these ardent groups had given up their ego, the country would have got out of this state of fear and done a lot of better things to the land of Ayodhya which has been deprived of a lot of other basic amenities due to the never ending dispute and fear of violence over the years. Can they both not come to a compromise by deciding to neither have a mosque nor a temple at the disputed site as it affects their livelihood and raises questions mark at their lives itself at times, as an eye for an eye always leads to at least one blind man. The respectable court should give a verdict that is neither pro hindu nor pro muslim, as that would make neither of them sad, cos this fight is not much to do with the existence of a mosque or a temple as I see it, it is more of an ego fight, an ego that would establish one superior over the other. A pro temple verdict would mean a defeat for the muslim’s and a pro mosque verdict would seem like a defeat for the hindu’s, which in reality is not (a defeat or a victory) to the larger section of both of these religions, except for a few thousand crooks.

To my opinion a right verdict for the disputed land would be the construction of a world class government school that provides education to the children of Ayodhya, who otherwise have been deprived of a lot of other things in life, right from their childhood and have lived around a lot of wrong influences and talks all through their lives so far. Only a school can put back their lives into right perspective, as the school can teach them the teachings of the religion of humanity, the foundation of our country, its constitution and concepts such as democracy, unity in diversity, and their fundamental rights (a lot of which they have been deprived off for quite some time now). This school could also have evening classes for the old and withered people, who have spent a large chunk of their lives fighting for their so called rights to have a temple or a mosque depending on which religion they belonged to. It could also work as a meeting point for these people to get back in touch with each others and shrug off their differences (if they as a group had any, cos of external pressure obviously). I think if things work out as I assume them to, things will not only fall back into place in Ayodhya, but also on a national level where the equation of love – hate had changed over a period of time as a consequence of the happenings at Ayodhya.

And to finally close my opinion box, I humbly plead and request all the political, religious and concerned parties, to save some ego for other issues and let the country get back into peace mode as we are already surrounded by larger than a temple-mosque ghost at a national level, in terms of naxals, terrorists and just to mention the CWG ghosts to be taken care of at the moment (I know I haven’t mentioned Kashmir, but that’s a different thing all together, again politically motivated, just like the Ayodhyan war).

Today’s Favorite Line(s) – Ram naam japna, paraya maal apna?!

                                     - I could never make it in politics... I spend too much of my own money.

Today’s Favorite Song – Allah ke bande (Kailash Kher)

P.S - This post hasn't been reviewed even once after writing, in a hurry to post it well before tomorrow's verdict, in case something is offending or not right as a fact, please ignore/forgive, I shall take a corrective action as soon as I can/ I am prompted!

With Best Compliments - Really?

Gifting is the one thing that we as humans have made a social habit, and of late it’s become more than just a habit. We tend to gift every possible person, on everyone other occasion and all kinds of things, irrespective of the fact that it makes any sense to the receiver or not.

It’s been quite some time since I have reduced (if not stopped) accepting gifts and  that, I have explicitly stated to those near and dear ones who care to go buy me a gift on some occasion or the other. This might sound a little sadistic but that’s how even I feel after I receive the gift and have to fake to the other person saying “Wow!!!! It’s awesome, exactly what I wanted!!” (Huh, each word was a lie there! more often than not). I got bad reactions from all the people whom I requested not to get me anything on my next birthday; they tried hard to persuade me to accept something, at least something just to make them feel good. But I fail to understand why something I don’t like accepting will make them feel good if I was important to them at the first place. For them it might be a formality or something but for me if I don’t like it or don’t want it, I mean it!

Now there might be a question in your mind, why would someone not like getting something from someone else, specially when it is given by a dear one and especially when it doesn’t cost anything (ha! It does matter ;)). The reason is simple or you can say obvious, over the years I have received tons of gifts from a wide range of people ranging from parents to cousins, friends to colleagues and complete strangers on various occasions. But more often than not I have not liked the gift I have received no matter how expensive or how good someone else must have thought it was. It could simply be because my choice is a little different than the buyer of that gift or because it really is not a good enough thing in someway or the other. It feels like such a burden to me at times that I feel like running away from such occasions or places where people bestow their wishes upon me with a gift that I am sure I might not like. It’s a burden in two ways, first that I have to accept the wonderful thing that the person has got for me and not use it ever as I never liked it, and next it’s a burden also cos now it would be my turn to get that someone something that might not disappoint him/her as it did me, cos I know I am bad at buying stuff according to others likes and I know that my choice is quite different from someone else’s choice to worsen my case.

I say all this without a percent of poignant feeling because it is what I feel, and who won’t feel this way when one receives only one of the few things consistently over the years. Things like coffee mug, photo frame, a set of headphones and the likes, not to mention clothes of size that don’t fit or color that doesn’t suit or books that I have already read or don’t like reading and the list can go on! If you were me, you would feel the same, what if you dint like to express it. At times to make the gift look better, they personalize the stuff to make it look special. One such instance was when a friend gifted a photo frame, with a photo in it that captured the two of us, now for heavens sake, I have a zillion photographs of mine with that friend and a lot of others both solo and in groups, if I wanna go in nostalgia its just a few clicks away, why waste a frame for it? I am not someone who’s gonna put up this frame on my study table or something for my family to pass a comment on it when ever they pass by it, I never put up a photo of them for that matter.

Irrespective of innumerable requests, people still tend to be so obsessed with the idea of gifting that they tend to ignore the importance of the person who is making a kind request for the benefit of both of them. If they are scared that I wont gift them back on their occasion cos I am not taking one, please don’t worry, I still will gift you in case you are interested, else I would be the first person to boycott this useless (if not at all times, at least in routine cases) ritual.

This might sound like a very strange kind of attitude but it’s the result of years of detest built up year over year by being at the wrong end of receiving. And in case you have ever gifted me before and figure one of those things you did gift in the above list, please don’t take it to your heart (instead take it to your head and please stop, at least now). Hope that’s the worst I can get at being rude on a large scale in a public forum about this (non) issue.

Today’s Favorite Line – They said ‘success is relative’, I asked ‘whose?’.

Today’s Favorite Song – Way back into love (Hugh Grant & Haley Bennett)

Common Wealth Games – India bula liya

The most upsetting coverage on all forms of media in the last 6 months has been on the preparation levels of India for the Common Wealth Games (CWG). The negative marketing of the CWG has gone down to an extent that a huge chunk of the population has started to believe that India should never have taken up the responsibility of conducting such a gigantic event when we knew we don’t have any experience or expertise to do the same. In fact a lot of experts and amateurs have gone down to say that CWG is nothing but a quick way of wasting thousands of crores of public money, that would do no good to the population at large, in no ways except for may be a few desperately made unfit stadiums (called ‘world class’ by them selves to give it that feeling at least for name sake) and more damage of infrastructure and chaos in daily life for ‘delhiites’ for close to half a decade now in the name of development which is yet to be seen in shape.

Now I guess its time we did some damage control and focused on certain face saving events rather than reporting and promoting the other not so happening things about the games(though the fact would remain that a lot of things are not right, agreed!! But they will never be at least for these games). Now this is a genuinely concerned citizen’s appeal that instead of beating the trumpets against our own people and events, lets try and stick to the fact that this event is some thing that may either bring the country laurels or might shatter the chances of the country having any image with regard to conducting any major event (not specific to sports alone) ever again.

No matter how bad the progress of the infrastructure development projects is, no matter how ugly the organizing committee and other contractors have gotten in the process of making the CWG happen (both in terms of corruption and bureaucracy), no matter how much money has already been wasted, no matter how good or bad our own athletes are, no matter how miserable life for a delhiite has become, no matter how good you expected the theme song to be and how Rahman may have disappointed the country at that Cost. Let’s just understand one thing; this is an event that our country has promised the world that it would host & conduct to the best of its abilities by making available all kinds of world class facilities both for the athletes and for the spectators who’ll be visiting our country to witness the mega event.

So let’s just stick to this particular thought and support the cause for the country in whatever fair way that we can. If that requires us to be spectators on television or on field as per our convenience, or if that requires us to stop reporting/promoting all the shortcomings till the games are over and done with, let’s make sure we don’t do it till the closing ceremony. Now, when I say that we should not promote or report the shortcomings during the course of the preparation and conducting of events, I mean it to be paused for a while and not for ever. Do all the accusing and pinpointing the day after the games are over.

Once the games are done and completed successfully (at least to say so), open up all the files of shortcomings and corruption and catch each of the culprits by their collar and take them to task, no one is going to stop you or the care takers of law. But until that time, just keep a track of everything, so that you can open the Pandora of complaints when it won’t hurt the country’s image. It does not make sense to take them to task now, as these are the people who know the event and the plans of its conducting in and out, if they are taken to task now, the progress of the preparation for the event and its smooth conducting will fall in to jeopardy. So let the goons make merry while we worry about the country’s reputation. Once the country’s obligation is taken care of, then we can reward these goons aptly. Till then lets just follow the lyrics of the theme song of CWG ‘rukna rukna rukna nahi, harna harna harna harna, harna nahi’. Because, ‘O yaaron. Ye India bula liya!’

Today’s Favorite Line – Have faith, when you have nothing else!!

Today’s Favorite Song – Lehrein (Aisha)

Broadband access a legal right in Finland, we still lack sanitation!!

In the first week of July providing high speed broadband service to all the citizens became a legal right in Finland. Just while reading this peace of news from a national daily, I was wondering we at India are so, so backward that we still haven’t solved our sanitation problem leave alone technological stuff like broadband and 3G or 4G.

This particular news item on Finland was of significant importance to me more than others as, if things would have happened as planned for me a year ago, I would have now been almost enjoying this right (not as a citizen but as an employee of a Finnish company though). And there I would have wondered about having high quality broadband service while we in India still suffer from low quality voice calling to say the least. We at India are still ages behind if we compare ourselves with countries like Finland in terms of technological innovation, human rights, crime, employment, infrastructure and many other parameters.

How will we get ahead while we have nefarious animals in the form of humans in our country killing innocent youngsters in the name of honor? If that time and energy was spent on doing certain other productive things for one self as well as the country, that would have fetched them and the country some global honor may be, and saving both them and the country some crime, brutality and sharp minds. Anyhow such is the kind of treatment one could expect in a society(country) that is uneducated at large and is tied in the bonds of self proclaimed tradition and other nonsense of past.

We lack so many basic rights as humans that broadband is still irrelevant to more than three quarters of the population at least. How can we think of broadband as a right even in our wildest dream when we seem to have nothing in place to even make a connection available in almost half of the living area of our population? There is neither the infrastructure (roads, power and so on) nor the education required with a huge chunk of the population to be able to access broadband services even in case they could be made available by some miracle.

So let’s make sure we give sanitation and education as legal rights at the earliest to all the citizens and then we can become eligible of dreaming about broadband services or other technological innovations in some portions of the country to start with per say. And then we can think of people moving around with latest gadgets in their hands downloading stuff from the internet early in the morning instead of them moving around with broken dirty mugs containing contaminated water walking towards the railway track to unload the stuff they managed to beg, borrow or steal the previous day to feed themselves. And that day we would also already be seeing tidy kids with clothes on their body, oil on their hair, with polished shoes and instead of dirt and grease on their hands (from being bonded labor) we may expect a book or a newspaper at least, to start moving towards being one among the best countries to live in, in the world.

P.S - While writing this post, just a second before I was about to finish writing, there was a power cut and I lost the document as a result ( I forgot to save the same while typing). Fortunately I managed to get it recovered, else living in one of the best cities of the country, I would have had to curse the infrastructure even more than we usually do for it is of no use having a broadband connection at home when such power cuts interrupt my work to the extent of almost losing it. Grrrrr...!!

Today’s Favorite Line – The slower we move, the faster we die.

Today’s Favorite Song -  Allah ke bande (Kailash Kher)

Marriage – an institution of 'love' or 'Coercion'?

A lot has been happening with regard to marriages recently and a huge chunk of population in the country is still way behind in BC (read – Before Christ) times in terms of their attitude towards it.

Of what I have learnt and understood of marriage in the 2 plus decades that I have lived, it is an arrangement where a male and a female start living together, to share their thoughts, lives, relatives and a lot more and ultimately for reproduction i.e. to help the world go on with enough number of people living on it at any point in time (to continue legacy’s, to put it differently).

In the past, marriage was more about some older generation people having not much to do in their free time, so they spent quite some time to find an ideal ‘family’ (mark my words here, they looked out for a family not a bride or groom) for their boy or girl ( I literally mean boy or girl here, it wasn’t man or women, heard of child marriage?) and once they found a family that they thought they would gel well with, irrespective of the fact that whether the boy and the girl would be able to spend the major part of their lives together ‘happily’ or not. All that mattered to them was their compatibility with the other family and certain other material things, to put it graciously.

If we talk about marriage today, the context is completely different and rightly so to an extent*. It’s an institution through which 2 humans of different genders spend a majority of their life together, for which they need to like and understand each other, so that they can bear with each other and can be there for each other at times good or bad, happy or sad and simultaneously can help the world have more people to live in and happily if possible.

The most important criteria today for the younger generation to get married is love. If they think they don’t like someone, they will seldom marry him or her (as far as they are courageous enough to speak up to the otherwise egoist world about their choice & liking). While we still are fighting the likes of khap, intracaste, inter caste and so on. We hardly seem to understand the logic behind such traditional burdens we are carrying. Some religions/ castes are against inter caste marriages, some are against intra caste marriages and some are against love marriages to be more specific. To my mind all of them are wrong and are only selfish and cruel to the right of ‘loving’ (can I call it ‘living’?). They want to compromise with lives of others, supposedly for the sake of some self created/felt honor. They are imposing self created beliefs which mean nothing if thought rationally about.

Let me pose a simple question to solve a major part of this marriage riddle. Did Adam and Eve know their Caste/religion/gotra? We have come a long way since Adam and Eve and we have learnt that they are supposedly the ones who began reproduction in the universe of humans. It is our older generations that have created such sects and sub sects as we have increased in numbers in the world. And to put it bluntly, they have done so to serve their own ego’s, selfish benefits, likings and many other such individualist reasons. Why should we continue with such illogical practices that have been imposed up on us? We are following it just because we have never questioned their existence at the first place.

I have observed some positive change in the younger generation recently, though only a few instances, they look to me like a huge step towards a better future. It’s about couples abstaining from mentioning their caste in certain places where that information is sought. Not just for themselves but even for their kids. In one particular case a couple did so because the husband is a muslim and the wife is a hindu, so they simply dint want to decide what caste their kid wanted to belong to. They thought that it was his choice whether he wanted to be known through some caste, if at all or doesn’t want to flaunt one like his parents did and he could take that decision the day he is grown up and mature enough to take a call on this divide and rule game. But the couple had to face a lot of problems before having made their point clear and still face tough situations at various places.

My thought on what should be the deciding factors for a marriage are summarized below, though we still have problems including dowry, domestic violence, female foeticide and many more such problems looming our society at large even today. In an ideal society we must, just let ‘love, liking, compatibility and understanding’ take over ‘caste, creed, greed and religion’ while choosing a groom for a bride or vise versa. As the former are the most important ingredients in any relationship and not the latter, which are just artificially created barriers that most of humanity still fails to understand fortunately.

* Let’s not get into the same gender marriages, which if not mentioned to do the least here while talking about ‘marriages in today’s context’ would be utterly ignorant of me. Though I am completely against that idea as its against the law of nature and so I think I would like to not comment much on it as I am not supposed to make judgments on other peoples lives, they know their own life and world better I guess.

P.S – This post was triggered by the incessant inhumane acts of the khaps in the northern part of the country, highlighted in the media lately. Such devilish acts must be condemned and the people behind these ideologies (at least the idea of taking lives, if nothing more or less) taken to task.

Today’s Favorite Line – Competition in life is necessary but in love, it just might be fatal.

Today’s Favorite Song – Love Don’t Care (Firehouse)