Phas Gaya Re Marwadi

It is always perceived to be better to be born in a rich business family, but as a really old saying goes ‘the grass always looks greener on the other side’. I think (out of experience mostly) that it’s a bane in more senses than one to be born in a rich business family (this is not exactly the ‘by experience’ that I am talking about) as it restricts you from being the kind of person you like to be. Though one might argue saying, you have the liberty and the resources that one requires to fulfill his/her aspirations, the reality is generally far from our imagination. How many Marwari’s that you know have gone out of their family’s already existing so called dynastical business empire? And if you are thinking that they dint go beyond cos they dint want to, then may be you are wrong, most of them stick back cos they have to, and they aren’t in a position to question or fight back to fulfill their dreams. Their aspirations get killed just cos they have to keep the family name flying high in the field their fore fathers chose to enter, no matter whether it’s going to work in the future or not.

The family becomes so narrow minded that everything except for what they are involved in seems risky, cos it involves things that they don’t understand, people of the kind whom they have never confronted before and courage that they never had (if they had it, they would have tried their own thing, rather than following their fore fathers just for the sake of it, by killing their own talent), killing genuine talent in other fields generation after generation. It’s known across the country that marwadi’s are known to be businessmen and are known to do well in business, but have we ever given a thought to the fact that how many of them who turned out as these so called good businessmen wanted to be the same? Now just cos they are doing well, we appreciate them and that’s obviously cos of their dedication and hard work, but haven’t they killed their hidden talent in other fields of interest (just in case, this might even mean any other business than the one in which the family is already involved).

At least someone born in a family where the main source of income is from a salary and not from some business, the younger generation always knows that it’s totally in their hands to build a career, to earn a living, to gain some name and respect. An individual can start working on these things with a sense of purpose and direction in mind, though he/ she might have to face a lot of obstacles and lack of resources, but the feeling of fulfillment is always there. But if you take a Marwadi youngster today, more often than not, all the liberties I mentioned above are absent, he/she hardly has a sense of purpose at any point in life, its always filled with if’s and buts (if’s of ‘what if my family wont allow me’, buts of ‘but I really want to do this’) which never get addressed rationally (you can take my word on this one, I can write a book on this subject in fact), there’s never the feeling of fulfillment as the family never lets you do anything on your own, they always want to act like a god father, even if you don’t want one (for hell’s sake, let me get things done for myself, MY WAY!), think of making a name for your self or some respect if at all that’s possible, it always gets over shadowed by the power of money and contacts your family wants to flaunt every now and then, as if you couldn’t do anything without them (now come on, your contacts are not end of the world! I have mine!!).

How does a marwadi youngster make a mark in such an orthodox environment, especially cos he/she has to deal with people who are mostly less educated, past driven, self obsessive, protectionist, conservative and most importantly still doing good in life in their own ways? You can hardly beat them on anything and argue? You better not try if you can’t take irrationality for an answer!

P.S – There are a zillion reasons why it’s a boon to be born in a Marwari business family, I am not ignorant of those luxuries (luxuries always don’t relate to money or status, & I mean it), in fact a lot of these things lead to a better life for a person than in any other community or type of people (FYI, I am not racist, neither do I believe in caste or creed, just making a point). Just wanted to highlight this one bane, that I observe affecting a lot of youngsters including me at this point in time. If you’re wondering why Marwari specific arguments in this one, cos they are the ones whom I represent but hardly seem to understand.

Today’s Favorite Line – Opportunity paged me, tweeted me, linked me, e-mailed me, poked me, faxed me and spammed me... but I was expecting it to knock.

Today’s Favorite Song – So Sick (Ne-Yo)